A Little About Me

I've spent over two decades helping people recognize their own capacity for change. I've also lived plenty of the same struggles I now help clients work through. I don't think that's a coincidence, and I've stopped pretending otherwise.

I spent about fifteen years in the wrong work. Nothing dramatic, nothing anyone would have flagged from the outside. Just a quiet, persistent self-betrayal that compounded year over year into something heavier, rooted in the fear of actually trying at the thing that mattered. When I finally did try, I built an international youth travel venture designed to grow global citizens through education, adventure, and cultural exchange. It failed. The financial difficulty that followed wasn't hypothetical. It was rent and groceries and months where the numbers didn't add up.

I lost my mother to cancer, and learned what it means to grieve while still showing up for everyone else. I've watched a long relationship come apart slowly rather than all at once, and rebuilt a life and a way of co-parenting on the other side of it. I'm a father to two kids who need a lot of me, and I know what it is to keep showing up for them fully, even when I'm running low myself. And I know the strange loneliness of stepping away from a friend group I'd outgrown: the relief of the decision, and then, years later, the cost of it.

None of that disqualifies me from this work. It's exactly what informs it.

The phrase I carried through the hardest stretches is one I still believe: I haven't peaked yet. Not as a slogan, but as a working conviction that meaningful change is possible at any age or stage. Fifteen years in the wrong work doesn't disqualify you from finding the right one. A failed venture is information, not a verdict.

Here's the other thing those years taught me. Almost nothing that hurt happened in isolation, and almost nothing healed in isolation either. We are relational beings. Our struggles tend to live between us and the people who matter, and so does our recovery. That belief, along with a deep conviction that every person is capable of great things given the real opportunity, sits underneath everything I do in the room.

My job isn't to hand you answers. You already carry more insight into your own life than you give yourself credit for. My job is to help you see what's already there, understand it through the lens of how your nervous system and attachment history actually work, and figure out what to do with it once you do.